Sibling Rivalry

In searching for a topic for a new blog post, I came across a question regarding sibling rivalry; and this made me start to reflect on my practices as a parent with my two children.  It seems that anytime there is more than one child, there will be some amount of fighting and disagreement.  How do we curb that? 

Well, I find that helping them to work through their problems during these disagreements is helpful.  I never take sides, but instead ask them to reflect on what the other is feeling.  This usually will bring the disagreement into discussion and eventually to a peaceful end.  Of course, my children are older, but this can work on most children if it is presented at their level. 

Make sure that your children understand that violence is NEVER okay and to NEVER allow anger to drive their judgments.  We can also model this in our own behavior. 

Another important part of reducing sibling rivalry is to try to stay neutral.  Taking sides can become a painful experience for a child.  Support both children and allow them to understand that you love them both and that they each have valid opinions. 

Take time to spend with each child.  Doing this can give your child a sense of love and relationship and will curb the desire to rival their sibling.

Sibling rivalry will always be an issue in parenting.  Although in following these steps and keeping positive and supportive, it can be controlled.