Please and Thank You

Teaching our children to say “please” and “thank you” is a fairly simple task.  But, why do we teach this to them?  Do they know why being polite is something they should do? 

Manners are an important part of social development.  In order for our children to grow into respected and respectful adults, it is important for them to develop good manners.  As you teach your child to say “please” and “thank you” make sure you explain the purpose.  Ask them how they feel when they are not asked to do something in a nice way or when they are not told “thank you” after helping someone or after doing a chore.  Their response should be that they feel unappreciated or bad.  Discuss with them the importance of respecting others by using good manners and how it helps us develop good relationships and respect among those we work and play with daily.  Be an example by modeling it every day with your kids.  When asking them to help out with a chore, say “please,” and when they complete a task thank them for doing a good job.

Only teaching children the habit of using “please” and “thank you” without explaining the purpose will  not develop purposeful manners in our children.  It should not only be a habit, but a reasoned decision to be polite.

 

With Thanksgiving this month, here's a fun book to read with your kids about saying "thanks"...

Bear Says Thanks by Karma Wilson